1. Select a vert and then hold down "v". The move manipulator will then have a yellow circle around it. If you grab that and drag towards another vert they will "snap" together. You can then merge them using the merge verts command.
2. You need to snap the verts of the new poly to the old one using the method above. Then "polygons >> combine" and then merge the verts. Then delete history.
Alan
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